Saturday, May 19, 2018

Armastab ja ei armasta

Dualism. Adekvaatne reaalsus on minu tõlgenduses, et sul ei ole võimalik samal ajal vihata ja armastada. Või siis - on küll ja see olukord ajab hulluks. Ei ole dualismi võimalik praktiseerida edukalt.

Hullus perekonnas ja inimeses endas. Vanade inimeste kõnepruugis nimetatakse seda "skisofreeniline olukord". Kooskõla puudub. Üks käsi teeb üht, teine teist. Hävitad, ent tahad head jne.

Õnn suhetes. Õnn tuleb siis, kui armastad KÕIKI mehi. Kui armastad KÕIKi naisi samaaegselt. Kõiki olendeid, samal ajal. Siis ei ole nii, et oled kallimaga koos ning mõtetes välgatab vihkamise objekt, nii et kogu su keha on vihkamisest kange. Armastada jäägitult. Ükskõik, mis või kes ilmub Teie vaimusilma.

Kellele seda vaja on? Ilmselgelt inimesele endale, kui ta soovib normaalset seksuaalelu. Või siis - ütleme teise sõnaga - normaalset spirituaalset elu - normaalseid emotsionaalseid kogemusi.


Kõik haigused on nakkushaigused. Ei ole miskit nakkavamat, kui on ärevus. Laskem partneritel end mõjutada. Seepärast ongi spirituaalsus väga mõistlik valik. Sul on võimalus nakatada teisi enda rahuga. Ka spirituaalsus on äärmiselt nakkav. Rõõm ja naer. Ja haigutused. Seda võib youtubest järgi kontrollida. Kui nakkav!


Meil kõigil on üks elu. Kõikidele tähelepanu ei jagu. Seetõttu on mõistlik enda käitumine piiritleda - seada endale piirid. On piiratud arv isikuid, kellega läheme luurele. On vaid üks seltskond, kellega saame olla peol ühel õhtul. Elukaaslasi, sõpru, lapsi ja sugulasi ei saa olla lõputult.

Ent armastus saab olla piiramatu ja sügav. Seetõttu just on mõitlik pühenduda vähemale, et kasvatada eneses sügavust. Seepärast seame endale piirid.

Millal on suhted õnnetud? Siis, kui su kaaslane harrastab dialismi ja ta ei lase end nakatada armastusega... See põhjus, kas armastus su sees on nakkav ja ülevoolav, on ikka vaid üksnes sinus.


Kui sinus aga ei ole veel oskusi armastada jäägitult, pead seda veel treenima. Selleks pead leidma endale sobiva treeningkeskkona, toetava õhkkonna. Kus teised näitavad ette, kuidas nemad armastavad. Ja siis sa õpid ka.

Olgu öeldud, et ka puud ja loodus oskab armastada. Vahel parim õpetaja ongi loodus. Vaatan puud ja ta näib täielikult heatahtlik. Nagu ta on. Nii ka mina saan sellega hakkama. Tingimused on head.


(Selles videos on väga kurb olukord)
(Elurõõmsam, realistlikum olukord)

3 comments:

  1. 1.
    Rooside joovastav hurm, liilia süütus ja sarm
    ma ei tea milleks kingid neid mul
    vaasis on längus mimoos tulbid on langenud koost
    mõtlen sulle kuid süda on külm
    mõtlen sulle kuid süda on külm

    Ref:
    Armastab ei armasta on karikakar selleks ju loodud
    armastab ei armasta ta õie lehte saatus on kootud
    mu lumevärvi õis su hoolde annan südame ma
    oleks hea kui valged õied vastaksid jaa

    2.
    Ütle kuis kasvada võid liival mu saatuslik õis
    on see saadik mu ulmade puult
    praegu ei aimagi veel kellele loodab mu meel
    ainult tunne on ärevalt suur
    ainult tunne on ärevalt suur

    Ref:

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  2. Yeah, yeah...
    If I didn't have you
    Yeah

    If I didn't have you to hold me tight
    (If I didn't have you)
    If I didn't have you to lie with at night
    (When I'm feeling blue)
    If I didn't have you to share my sighs
    (Share my sighs)
    And to kiss me and dry my tears when I cry

    Well I
    Really think that I would
    Have somebody else

    (If I didn't have you)
    If I didn't have you
    Someone else would do

    Your love is one in a million
    (One in a million)
    You couldn't buy it at any price
    (Can't buy love)
    But of the nine-point-nine-nine-nine-hundred-thousand other possible loves
    Statistically, some of them would be equally nice
    (Equally nice)

    Or maybe not as nice but, say, smarter than you
    Or dumber but better at sport or... fucking... tracing?

    I'm just saying
    I really think that I would
    Probably
    Have somebody else
    (If I didn't have you)
    If I didn't have you someone else would do
    (Someone else would surely do)

    If I were a rich man
    Fiddle diddle diddle diddle diddle diddle diddle dee
    I guess I would be with a surgeon or a model
    Or a rellie of the royals or a Kennedy
    Or a nymphomaniacal exhibitionist heiress
    To a large chain of hotels

    If I were a rich man, maybe I would fiddle
    Fiddle diddle diddle with the rich man girls

    I'm not saying that I'd not love you
    If I was wealthy or handsome
    But realistically, there's lots of fish in the sea
    And if I had a different rod, I would conceivably land some

    Even though I am fiscally consistently pitiable
    And considerably less 'Brad Pitt' than 'Brad pitiful'
    Am I really so poor and ugly that you think
    Only you could possibly love me?

    And I
    Really think that I would
    Probably
    Have somebody else

    (If I didn't have you)
    If I didn't have you someone else would do
    (Someone else would surely do)

    Look, I'm not undervaluing what we've got when I say
    That, given the role chaos inevitably plays
    In the inherently flawed notion of fate
    It's abstruse to deduce that I found my soulmate
    At the age of 17
    It's just mathematically unlikely that at a university in Perth
    I happened to stumble on the one girl on Earth
    Specifically designed for me

    And if I may conjecture a further objection
    Love is nothing to do with destined perfection
    The connection is strengthened
    The affection simply grows over time

    Like a flower
    Or a mushroom
    Or a guinea pig
    Or a vine
    Or a sponge
    Or bigotry
    ...or a banana

    And love is made more powerful
    By the ongoing drama of shared experience
    And synergy, and symbiotic empathy, or something

    So I trust it would go without saying
    That I would feel really very sad
    If tomorrow you were to fall off something high
    Or catch something bad
    But I'm just saying
    I don't think you're special
    I mean, I think you're special
    But, you fall within a bell curve

    I mean, I'm just saying I
    Really think that I would
    Probably
    Have somebody else

    I think you are unique and beautiful
    You make me happy just by being around
    (Just being around)
    But objectively you would have to agree
    That baby when I found you
    Options were relatively thin on the ground
    (Thin on the ground)
    You're lovely but there must be girls as lovely as you
    Or maybe more open to spanking, or table tennis...

    I'm just saying
    That I think that I would
    Probably
    Have somebody else

    I mean I reckon it's pretty likely that if for example
    My first girlfriend, Jackie, hadn't dumped me
    After I kissed Winston's ex-girlfriend Neah
    At Steph's party back in 1993

    Enough variables would probably have been altered
    By the absence of that event
    To have meant the advent
    Of a tangential narrative in which we don't meet

    Which is to say there exists a theoretical
    Hypothetical parallel life
    Where what is is not as it is
    And I am not your husband and you are not my wife

    And I am a stuntman living in LA
    Married to a small blonde Portuguese skier
    Who when she's not training
    Does abstract painting
    Practises yoga
    And brews her own beer

    And really likes making home movies
    And suffers neck down alopecia

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  3. But with all my heart and all my mind
    I know one thing is true
    I have just one life and just one love
    And my love, that love is you
    And if it wasn't for you
    Darling, you
    I really think that I would
    Possibly
    Have somebody else

    If I didn't have you
    If I didn't have you
    Someone else would do
    Someone else would surely do

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